Islamabad at Night

Islamabad at Night
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A place never to be forgotten

Dastoor by Habib Jalib

Iqbal on Meraj ki raat

اختر شام کي آتي ہے فلک سے آواز
سجدہ کرتي ہے سحر جس کو، وہ ہے آج کي رات
رہ يک گام ہے ہمت کے ليے عرش بريں
کہہ رہي ہے يہ مسلمان سے معراج کي رات

Lab pey aati hey dua ban kar tamana meri

The War Criminal

An anti-war protester, with her hands painted a blood colour, calling Rice as a War Criminal ( Very befitting)

It might be

The image (courtesy of Daily Express Pakistan) shows some women protesting for the release of their missing relatives.
I am of the opinion whoever commits whatever crime he should be dealt through the means and ways described in the laws and constitution. If this is not done then there is every possibility in the world that it might be me who is missing, it might be you who is missing or it might be we who are missing.

Fire

" O ye who believe! Save yourself and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones"

Holy Quran



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Some sayings of Hazrat Ali Razi Allah Unho

“Silence is the best reply to a fool”

“Humility is the outcome of knowledge”

“Forgiveness is the crown of greatness”

“To assist the wrong is to oppress the wright”

“Friendship is impossible with a liar”

“Enmity is the occupation of fools”

“Pride blocks progress and damages greatness”

“Boasting small issues from small minds”

“None is more respected than a pious man”

“Your tongue will speak out what it is accustomed to do”

“One’s behaviour is the index to one’s mind”

Courtesy http://mahfuzahmed.wordpress.com/2007/09/20/pearls-from-the-lips-of-hazrat-ali-ra/

The Best by Wasim Akram

"You have to convince yourself that you are the best, Only then you can convince others"
Wasim Akram

Thanks to my friend Irtaza Askari who told me this great pearl of insight.

Reform and the sword

Umar bin Abdul Aziz is rightly known as Omar Sani ( The Second Omar) due to the reforms he introduced to the Muslim world after many tragic incidents of the Muslim history like the reign of Yazeed, Shahadat e Imam Hussain, May God be pleased with him ( the grand son of the Prophet Peace be Upon Him) and the spread of the love of the material world with in the muslim rulers especially.

His promising son, Abdul Malik a youth of 17 advised his father to be more ruthless in introducing his beneficial reforms, but the wise father replied,

"My beloved son, what thou tellest me to do can be achieved only by sword, but there is no good in a reform which requires the use of the sword, But there is no good in a reform which requires the use of sword."

Courtesy http://www.renaissance.com.pk/novletfor95.html

Inability is a disaster

"Inability is a disaster; patience is bravery; abstinence is a treasure, self-restraint is a shield; and the best companion is submission to Divine Will." - Hazrat Imam Ali (Razi Allah unhu)

Lamp of Silence

I never saw any lamp shining more brilliantly than the lamp of Silence

Hazrat Khwaja Bayazid Bastami

60th Anniversay of Pakistan

the P M house Islamabad

Rumi's meeting with Shams

Courtesy Student Point

After Burhan alDin Tirmidhi passed away, Rumi began lectur­ing in the madrasa in Konya and training students. He had tak­en his first lessons from his father, the king of scholars. On the one hand, Rumi lectured in the seminary, held conversations with those seeking the truth, and answered their questions; on the other hand, he guided the lovers of Cod and warned them.

This way Rumi became the sultan of scholars in the religions sciences and other sciences, like his father, and he also became the sultan of gnostics in the area of Sufism. The public admired Rumi very much. In the view of the sultan, notables, and the common folk, he was known as a most elevated Muslim, an insan al-kamil, because of his devotion to worship, dedication to fasting and praying, virtues, humanity, graciousness, modesty despite his great knowledge, abstinence from the world, his commitment to the Muhammadi path just like his father, and his crystal clear life.

It was around this time that an event occurred that was going to change Rumi's life. Shams al-Din of Tabriz came to Konya. This poor person who came, Shams of Tabriz, enraptured Rumi, the great scholar, busy with his lectures, and cautious great Sufi and spiritual guide. He made him into an ardent lover of God.

Who was this Shams al-Din of Tabriz who brought about such a big change in Rumi's life? Aflaki writes that Shams' father was Ali, son of Malikdad. Since he was born in Tabriz, he may have been of the Azeri Turks. It is clear from the Maqalat that he was very well educated and familiar with all the sciences of his day. Since he never stayed in one place for a long period ot time and traveled to many places, he was given the nickname "Shams-i Perende" (Flying Shams) He also is called "Kamil-i Tabrizi" (the perfect one of Tabriz) since he was a perfect man. Although he was a great saint, he concealed himself and his saintly miracles from everyone. He lived in towns anonymous­ly, and whenever he became known, he would depart that town. During his travels, he never would stay at dervish lodges or seminaries. He would lodge at inns, and closing his door tight­ly, he kept nothing inside except for a rush mat to sleep on. He dressed as an ordinary tradesman, never wearing the glamorous clothing of shaykhs. Sipahsalar Faridun Ahmad fd. 1284) describes him as the one who attained the bliss of closeness to God while still being alive: the sultan of the saints, pole of the gnostics, heir of the prophets, the crown of those loved by God, and he writes that Rumi was an insan al-kamil, possessor of clairvoyance, and possessor of spiritual states. Shams was like Moses, in his close connection with God, and like Jesus, in his secluded and solitary lifestyle, may peace be upon them.22 If he had not possessed these attributes how could he have befriended Rumi? How would these two saints, lovers of God, have united like two seas? In his Ibtidaname, Sultan Valad likens the meeting of Shams and Rumi to the meeting of Moses and Khidr. As is commonly known, although Moses was a prophet who attained the station of kalim Allah (one who has spoken with God), he admired the lovers of God and sought them out. Similarly, although Rumi had attained the highest levels of seminary teacher and spiritual guide, he still admired and loved the lovers of God. Contrary to the misconception of some, he was not looking for a spiritual guide. He was reared by the knowledge and gnosis of a peerless father, Sultan al-UIama, and became a spiritual guide passing through the levels of spiritual journey under the guidance of the greatest spiritual guide, Burhan al-Din Tirmidhi.

Shams also were a great personality. He too loved God like Rumi. He also had traveled to many locations and seen numer­ous scholars and shaykhs, and in his own words, he was unable to find what he was looking for in any of them. No one really could understand his spiritual state. No one could comprehend the truth of his secrets. Rumi had attained levels of perfection, settled in Konya, became a teacher and a spiritual guide by the time he had reached fifty years of age. He no longer needed to go anywhere or search for anything. A sham, however, had exceeded sixty years of age and still was wandering around look­ing tor a spiritual guide, yet unable to settle anywhere. In his book Maqalat, Shams writes: "I left Tabriz in order to find a spiritual guide, I left the town but I could not find a spiritual guide. The universe is not empty, so there must be a spiritual guide somewhere ... I had a Shaykh in Tabriz called Abu Bakr. He would weave baskets and make his living from this. I beneficed from him very much. But I had something that my shaykh did not see in me. In fact, nobody could see it. "

We do not know for sure to which Sufi order Shams belonged. According to some scholars, he was devoted to Baba Kamal, one of the deputies of the great saint Najm al-Din kubra, Sultan al-Ulama's spiritual guide who was martyred while fighting against the Mongols. Others say he was from the Ahbariyya branch of the Khalwati chain. However, as mentioned above, Shams himself states that he was the dervish of Shaykh Abu Bakr of Tabriz. In fact, Shams was not a dervish who would stick to the basket-maker Abu Bakr who could not see what was in him and boasted that he was a shaykh. He confesses: "I left him and he was very sorry" Who knows, he might have confronted his shaykh with his mistakes and left. No one knows for sure. Shams could not see anything in the shaykh who could not sec anything in him.

In those days, Shams was unable to find what he was look­ing for in the famous shaykhs whom he met in different places, got to know, and whose lectures he attended. He found himself unable to devote himself to them. He was looking for a perfect spiritual guide. In his mind, there was the image of a pure, untar­nished shaykh living like a Companion of the Prophet, complete­ly on the Muhammadi path. However, since he saw flaws in the persons he met who claimed to be shaykhs, he could not devote himself to them. He was saddened whenever he could not find the Islamic way of life in those whom everybody respected great-ly and whose hands everybody kissed. He said in his Maqalat: "It is only yesterday that he left his mother's womb and today he is claiming: 'I am the Truth.' How can someone born from such and such a woman say he is the Truth. Most of these shaykhs are the bandits of Muhammad's religion. They block people's ways. “Shams always stayed away from the shaykhs who were after ostentation and reputation, and until he met Rumi he did not devote himself to any guide. When Shams-i Tabriz met Rumi, , when he saw the truth in him, he said: "I found what I was look­ing for in my Hudavendigar, Rumi, " and he stayed in Konya.

Aflaki relates that prior to their meeting in Konya, Rumi and Shams met in Damascus. He writes that one day while Rumi was in the marketplace someone dressed entirely in black with a con­ical hat kissed Rumi's hand and told him: "O judge of the realm of meanings! Find me! Understand me!" and then vanished into the crowd. He narrates that this man was Shams. Shams arrived in Konya on Saturday morning October 23, 1244. As was his habit, he directly went to an inn. It is said that he went to the Pirincciler (rice farmers) or sekerciter (sugar farmers) inn and rented a room. It is also narrated that for the public to think of him as a rich tradesmen, he put an expensive lock on his door worth three dinars and tied the key to an end of his turban and let it hang from his shoulder. However, there was nothing in Shams's room other than an old rush mat, a broken jug, and a sun-dried brick he used as a pillow. There is no record of how long after he came to Konya he met Rumi.

The accounts of his meeting with Rumi are numerous. According to Aflaki's account, one day Rumi came out of the Iplikci madrasa accompanied by his students and disciples and riding his donkey. At that moment Shams al-Din of Tabriz ran into Rumi. Holding on to the reigns of the donkey, he stated the above. However, Sipehsalar narrates the meeting of Rumi and Shams like this: Shams al-Din of Tabriz arrived in Konya at night. He went to the Pirincciler inn. There was a decorated sofa in front of the inn's gate. Usually notable people would sit on that sofa. Shams sat on that sofa in the morning. It became clear to Rumi that Shams arrived through the holy light of sainthood. Coming out of their home of happiness, he went in that direction. On the way, people tried to approach him and to show their respect for him. At that moment Rumi's glance suddenly coin­cided with Shams. He understood that the holy person foretold to him in his dream was this person. He said nothing.

Mevlana Hudavendigar came and sat on the other sofa fac­ing Shams. For a while they kept quiet. Then they began to converse:

Shams: Is Prophet Muhammad greater, or Bayazid Bistami? Rumi: What kind of a question is this? Of course, Prophet Muhammad is greater.
Shams: Yes, but Muhammad says: "Sometimes my heart gets veiled. Therefore, seventy times I seek refuge in my Lord and ask for forgiveness, " while Bayazid says: "I dissociate myself from all imperfect attributes. What great an event is my cre­ation and appearance" and "there exists nothing under the robe I wear other than God.” And he sees himself superior. What do you think in this matter? What do you say? Rumi: Muhammad was advancing seventy levels everyday. And every time he advanced to a higher level he was ashamed of his state in the lower level and asked for forgiveness. On the other hand, Bayazid was amazed by the greatness of the first level he reached. He lost himself and said these words.

After this conversation, Rumi and Shams both left the sofas they were sitting on and shook each other's hands and hugged each other. Then in Jalal al-Din Zarqubi's small room, they had conversations for six months. 24 In Ibtidaname, Sultan Valad expresses their closeness and admiration: "When Rumi saw Shams' face, the secrets opened up for him. He saw unseen things. He heard things that he never heard from anyone. It was almost as if Rumi's shadow disappeared in Shams' holy light. "

In this closeness, in this true friendship, in this divine love, one cannot claim superiority or emphasize a difference by say­ing who became whose spiritual guide, or who became whose disciple. This couplet of Amir Khusrau Dahlavi describes the situation of the two lovers of God: "I became you and you became I. I became the flesh and you became the soul. After this nobody can claim I am separate and you are separate. “The fact that these two great saints met, loved each other as true friends of God, and continuously spent time together was not well received by those around them. Rumi's students, disciples, notable imams, and religious men, even members of his own family hated Shams because they could not see and sense the truth, love, and power of faith in Shams who had such an influ­ence on Rumi.

Rumi's wife Kerra Khatun related that before Shams arrived, Rumi read his father Baha al-Din Valad's book Ma'arif under a tall candle till the dusk. Shams not only kept him from reading his father's book, but he also did not let him read the Collected Poems of al-Mutanabbi that Rumi loved very much or any other book. This was because he gave importance to the knowledge of heart, Divine Inspiration, and Divine Attraction but not to the knowledge that was going to be forgotten, that was going to be a burden to the human being, and that was going to inflate one's ego. The knowledge of heart is not learned from books. He was convinced that even if a man lives six thousand years, even if he were given six times Noah's lifetime, what is obtained by strug­gling for thousands of years would not equal Divine Inspiration gained through being united with God for one moment. Shams took conversation and God's Attraction as fundamental. He held that knowledge was not an end in itself but a means of letting us know of our inadequacy in realizing the truth and understanding God. Therefore, by separating Rumi from the things he loved very much, Shams was trying to bring Rumi even closer to God to whom Rumi was already close.

He distracted Rumi, who had been spending most of his time reading books in the meeting hall of the madrasa, from full devotion to those books. He also did not allow everyone to see him. Sitting at the gate of the seminary, he asked of those who came to see Rumi, "What did you bring as a gift of pleading and gratefulness? Show me that and I shall show you Rumi. " One day when someone got angry with this strange man and asked, "What did you bring so that we also need to bring something?", Shams replied, "I brought myself, I sacrificed my head for his sake. "

In Ibtidaname, Sultan Valad describes how close Shams was to Rumi and how much he influenced him: "When the public saw this attachment, this loyalty, this rapture, and this love, they were envious and began criticizing. Shaykhs and other important people openly started rumors saying: "What kind of a man is this that he changed Rumi so much? While none of us see goodness in Shams, why does Rumi view him as a superior man and honor him? He has neither spiritual state nor knowledge. Is it possible that we might call him a man of the Divine Glance and conclude that the eye of his heart is open?" When Shams saw that things were getting out of control and all people were turning against him, he suddenly vanished one day After fifteen months and twenty days, Shams left Konya on February 15, 1246.

In Ibtidaname, Sultan Valad writes that Rumi was very sad about Shams' departure and would not even look into the faces of those who had caused him to leave. He also reports that these people regretted what they had done, and Rumi forgave them. 25 While Sultan Valad writes that Shams went directly to Damascus, Sipehsalar relates that it was not known where Shams went first. After some time, Shams sent a letter to Rumi from Damascus, and this way it became clear that Shams had gone to Damascus.
When Shams wrote a letter to Rumi from Damascus, Rumi replied. In those days since there was no postal service as there is today, letters were carried by special messengers, and it took a long time. In Aflaki's Manatqibu'l-Arifin, there are four letters to Shams written by Rumi in verse. From these poetic letters, I have taken some couplets as an example of their conversation:

0 light of my heart, come! O the aim of my struggles, come! You know that our lives are in your hands. Don't make the sweet life difficult. Don't torment your slaves, come! O love, O beloved, overcome the obstacles, leave stubbornness and come!
O graceful person of the world! I send my greetings to you. Know that my health and illness are in your discretion. Even if
I am not physically with you and serving you, my spirit and heart are most surely with you.
May the life of our honorable master be long. May God be his protector and cherisher. May there be nobody deprived of love and with frozen hearts in his joyful and warm assembly full of sweetness and beautiful conversation.

After receiving a letter from Shams, Rumi called to Sultan Valad. He gave him some money and said: "You go as a messen­ger. Spread this money under his feet. And ask him for a favor on my behalf. Those who treated him badly are remorseful. Let him do us a kindness and come back. “Sultan Valad eagerly accepted this mission. He also loved Shams very much. He had seen the greatness of Shams and understood his truth. In describing his travel to Damascus, Sultan Valad relates: "I ran without getting tired, I crossed the mountains without regarding them as anything more than a piece of hay. The thorns of the way appeared to me as roses. "

Aflaki writes that Sultan Valad went with twenty people. They found Shams in Damascus. Sultan Valad did as he was told. He spread the money at Shams1 feet. When Shams saw the money, he smiled and replied: "Why does Rumi of Muhammadi character busy us with money? His request is more than enough. " He then accepted the request to return to Konya. Sultan Valad and his friends stayed a few days in Damascus. Whirling cere­monies were performed. They rested and then set out for Konya with Shams.

When the caravan from Damascus approached Konya, Sultan Valad sent a bearer of good news to his father. When Rumi received the good news, he came out of the city to wel­come them with dervishes, important officials, and Rumi's employees. On May 8, 1247 Shams honored Konya once more with his arrival. When Shams saw Rumi, he got off his horse and they hugged each other. Two seas of the realm of meaning reunit­ed once more.

When Shams returned to Konya, his adversaries initially were remorseful for what they had done. Like Rumi, Shams for­gave them all because both Rumi and Shams were of Muhammadi character. It is well known that the Prophet forgave those who stoned him in Ta'if and wounded him in his feet. Rumi already had forgiven those who worked against Shams and spread rumors about him before Shams returned. Shams followed the same path.

He was lenient with those who mistreated him and forgave their misdeeds. Whirling ceremonies began to be arranged, and both Rumi and Shams received invitations from various people. But the days that passed in joy and enthusiasm with whirling cere­monies did not last long. Grudge and hate surfaced once more. Rumors against Shams flared up again. Lies and instigations soon followed and spun out of control. This time the instigations were more intense. In Sultan Valad's account. Shams, who could not stand insults and threats, said: "This time when I leave, I will leave in such a way that nobody will find my trace. I will vanish such that time will pass and even the dust of my trace will not be found. They will say: 'Definitely an enemy of his must have killed him. '" Shams had left Damascus with Sultan Valad and his friends with such hopes and such great longing, crossing moun­tains and rivers. Now these immature people who envied him, his devotion to Rumi, and Rumi's respect and closeness to him continuously were harassing him. Since Shams was a very good person, he buried the attacks and gossip of the bad intentioned who envied him and did not let Rumi know. Shams' wife Kimia, whom he loved very much, died shortly after their wedding. No matter how great a person, Shams was also human, after all. The death of his wife on the one hand and the gossip on the other had worn him out. He had no power to stand against the insults and threats. His attachment to Rumi and the truth he saw in him was keeping him alive. On a Thursday in December 1247, Shams disappeared.
According to Sipehsalar, on the morning that Shams disap-peared, Rumi went to the madrasa; unable to find him, he became very sad. He immediately went to the room where Sultan Valad was sleeping and called out to him: "Baha al-Din, why are you still sleeping? Get up and look for your shaykh. Our spirits once more are deprived of his pleasant smell. "27 However, Aflaki relates two different accounts about Shams1 disappearance. According to the account from Sultan Valad, when Shams and Rumi were sitting together, someone from outside called Shams.

Shams told Rumi: "They are calling me to death." After a short silence Rumi recited the following Qur'anic verse: "Know that creation and command is His. How great is the Lord of the Worlds, “Upon hearing this Shams went outside; seven people waiting for him in hiding jumped on him and martyred him with knives. Shams screamed and all of them fainted. When Rumi heard Shams' cry he said: "God does as He wills and judges what He wills.” When Shams attackers came to themselves, they saw a few blood drops on the ground but Shams was gone.

Aflaki's second account is as follows: Shams had been martyred and his body thrown into a well. One day Shams entered the dream of Sultan Valad and showed him the well in which his body had been thrown. He then went with a few friends and removed the body from that well and buried it near Rumi's madrasa next to Amir Badr al-Din Gowhartash, who had built it.

Under the light of these accounts decorated with fantasies, we must wonder if Shams disappeared as he had said: "I will leave in such a way that nobody will find me.” Did he go on a journey with no return, or was he martyred? Only God knows the truth. When we consider Aflaki's accounts, we can draw such a conclusion from these accounts: When Shams was with Rumi, he was called outside, but he never returned and never was seen afterward. Did those who called him kidnap him? Did they kill him? Did they help him go somewhere outside Konya? Did Shams go to Damascus where he had gone before? The answers are not known for certainty. The only thing to know is that Rumi did not know anything about Shams being martyred. Did they keep such a tragedy secret from Rumi? Did such a tragedy occur at all? How can truth be kept secret from a great saint? Just as he had noticed the first arrival of Shams in Konya with the holy light of sainthood, as Sipehsalar writes, just as he came to the Pirincciler Inn where Shams lodged and found him, he would know that Shams was martyred and would not go twice to Damascus in search for him. As Abdulbaki Golpinarli (d. 1982) writes, "The Qur'anic verse recited by Rumi, Shams' cry, the fainting of the assassins, and the few drops of blood on the ground arc epic components that mystical thinking was involved in this event."

Aaj aur Abhi by Javed Chaudhry ( Courtesy www.express.com.pk)

This article is a guide for many of us who cannot prioritize things

A Dervish's Doorstep

A Picture of the shrine of Hazrat Mian Mir (May Allah have blessings on him)
Emperor Jahangir once visited the sufi and was stopped at the doorstep by his devotees.
‘Ba dar-e-dervish darban na bayad,’ Jahangir said to the saint (There shouldn’t be a sentry at a dervish’s doorstep).
Mian Mir replied: ‘Bayad ke sag-e-dunya na ayad’ (He’s needed to keep the worldly dogs away).

Destinations hail sincere seekers

"The search for Truth, for the Truth conscious, for the men of heart, for the Imam of the age, or for the intimate of mysteries, involves no geographical journey. There is a great difference between the voyages of Sindbad and the travels of the seeker after Truth. The ego should attain to a state of self-realization before it embarks on its journey toward Truth. The clearer the mirror of the heart, the easier for it to receive the flashes of Truth. Approach to Allah is though prostration, with your brow brought low. Prostration is here below and connection on high. Divine blessings on the Prophet (May blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) are invoked here and accepted there. The first thing there for is self-reformation, enabling yourself to know what the radiance of Truth really means. Abu Jahl sees the prophet (May blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) but cannot have access to him (May blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), whereas Uways (May Allah be pleased with him) of Qaran has access to him (SAW) although he has never been near him (May blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) physically. Destinations hail sincere seekers after Truth at the very outset".
courtesy:http://wasifaliwasif.wordpress.com

Death and Life

"Some are dead in life and others are alive in death"

Wasif Ali Wasif

Knowedge and Action

"Knowledge without action is insanity and action without knowledge is vanity"

Al-Ghazali

The Salt Mosque in Khewra, Pakistan

A mosque made of salt bricks

The true nation

The above picture shows a mother helps her son send off lanterns on the Motoyasu river, beside the Atomic Bomb Dome on Monday to mourn victims of the 1945 atomic bombing of this Japanese city (Courtesy DailyTimes)

The true nations always remember their losses. The reason that I have posted this picture on this blog is that we see many people in Pakistan who are of the opinion that issues like Kashmir should be forgotten. I wonder how can they think like that.
Japanese have not forgotten Hiroshima so far and we are inclined towards forgetting Kashmir
Alas
May be this is the difference between the true and non-true nations

Stealing a snake from a snake-catcher

"Once a thief from a catcher, a snake stole
His prize, with ignorance, praise, and extol.
The catcher was thus relieved from its bite
Killed the thief, the killer snake, with fright.
The catcher came upon that familiar sight
Said, "my snake with life, has made this right.
I prayed for life, for my own sake
And what I found was none but snake.
Praise that my prayer was nullified
Gainful was the loss I identified.
We pray many times for loss and demise
With grace won’t hear Infinite Wise."

Rumi

THE MAYONNAISE JAR AND 2 CUPS OF COFFEE

THE MAYONNAISE JAR AND 2 CUPS OF COFFEE

When things in your life seem almost too much to
handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough,
remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of
coffee...

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had
some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar
and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They
agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box
of pebbles
and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar
lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas
between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured
it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He
asked once more if the jar was full.
The students responded with a unanimous yes." The
professor then produced two cups of coffee from under
the table
and poured the entire contents into the jar,
effectively filling the empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.


"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
"I want you to recognize that this jar represents your
life.
The golf balls are the important things -- your God,
family, your children, your health, your friends,
and your favorite passions -- things that if
everything else was lost and only they remained, your
life would still be full.


The pebbles are the other things that matter like your
job, your house, and your car.

The sand is everything else -- the small stuff."

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he
continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the
golf balls."

The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and
energy on the small stuff, you will never have room
for the things that are important to you.


Pay attention to the things that are critical to your
happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get
medical checkups.


Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix
the disposal.
Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that
really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just
sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what
the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just
goes to show you that no matter how full your life may
seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of
coffee with a friend."